- By Bornika Das
- Sun, 23 Nov 2025 02:27 PM (IST)
- Source:JND
Bare Minimum In Relationship: You might have matched on a dating app, met through a friend, bumped into each other at a party or simply gone on a fun blind date. The initial stages of a relationship are all about butterflies in the stomach and thousands of promises to stay with each other “forever.” However, suddenly, when reality hits, he seems distant, replying late, giving mixed signals and the warmth in his texts is gone, leaving you wondering, “What did I do wrong?” Modern dating has a way of blurring the lines between actual care and effort taken half-heartfully. There may be clear signs that someone is merely doing the bare minimum treatment to keep you around and that’s when you realise that he’s not interested in you.
Thus, understanding the signs of disinterest provides a defence against emotional burnout and self-doubt. Also, it helps you to recognise that he is a relationship red flag. If he’s someone doing the bare minimum treatment and showing signs he's not that into you long term, you must recognise and respond to that kind of behaviour and move on. Here are seven bare minimum treatments that men often show when they are not interested in you, leaving you in a state of confusion and overthinking.
Bare Minimum Signs That He Is Not Interested In You
His Attention Feels Optional
If your guy sometimes texts you like he’s interested, but then he disappears for hours, or even days, without any explanation, then it is a sign that shows he is not interested. If he’s interested in you, he will not give bare minimum treatment and will make time for you.
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Turns Plans Into ‘May Be Later’
If you suggest going out or spending time together and there’s always an excuse like “I’m busy,” “Maybe next week,” or “Let’s see,” over time you’ll realise that you are not a priority. If he’s interested in you, he’ll definitely make plans and give you enough time.
You’re Doing Emotional Work Alone
You analyse every text, every call, every small interaction and end up overthinking while trying to decode his actions. This shows emotional load on you and he’s emotionally unavailable. Someone genuinely interested won’t leave you guessing where you went wrong. They’ll communicate clearly, make you feel secure and share the emotional responsibility.
He Plays The Hot-And-Cold Game
One day, he’s sweet, affectionate, and texting non-stop, while the next moment, he’s distant, distracted or cold. This rollercoaster action leaves you emotionally drained because the push-and-pull isn’t love, it’s him keeping you on the hook.
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He Flirts With Or Talks About Other Women
Even small comments about other women - compliments, comparisons or jokes are considered as warning signs. Someone who’s truly interested won’t make you feel insecure or think he’s looking elsewhere. When he pays attention to other women while keeping you around, he’s just not interested in you.
He Avoids Real Conversations
If you try discussing feelings, the relationship or even future plans and he changes the topic, brushes it off, or laughs it off, then it’s a sign of disinterest. Avoiding serious talks is a classic sign that he’s not ready, or doesn’t want, to connect on a deeper level.
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He Keeps You Away From His Social Life
He doesn’t introduce you to his friends, family or important people in his life. He’s happy to hang out one-on-one but avoids including you in his social circles. If he were serious, he’d want you to be part of his world. If he keeps you separate, then he makes you feel that you are temporary in his life.
These bare minimum treatments are not a reflection of your value but a loud declaration of someone else's disinterest. When their efforts lack consistency or depth, that is a sign to respect yourself enough to step away, without keeping hope.