It is ideal to talk to your partner about everything and tell them what you truly feel.
Everyone has their own trauma and past feelings which haunts their present. You need to find that issue and work on that with your partner.
It is always the best option to never pressurize your partner to commit to a relationship. Instead, be a good listener and listen to what they are feeling and wanting.
Always discuss the idea and make a mutual decision about what you want to do in a relationship.
start slowly and make small commitments so that your partner will not feel pressure.
Give your partner space to think about what they really want. It will calm their mind.
It's not easy for your partner to commit immediately so you need to have patience. If they truly love you they will wait for you.
We always need someone to listen to solve our hardships. Therapy is a great option for you to bring out every issue in your mind and try solving them one by one.