- By Kashish Rai
- Sat, 30 Sep 2023 03:36 PM (IST)
- Source:JND
Gaur Gopal Das Videos: We are surrounded by people all around us. The art of managing interpersonal relationships is a complex topic that society frequently treats with little respect. Every member of a given group have a distinct identification style that has been shaped over the course of their entire existence. There are many different types of people, including extroverts, introverts, expressive, analytical, reserved, timid, and responsive. Every time you interact with another person, you are in a relationship, yet you can only form close bonds with others over time and over again. All of us have been in a number of relationships throughout the course of our lives; regrettably, some have ended while others have persisted and made a lasting mark on us. Let us have a look at 9 best spiritual teachings by spiritual monk Gaur Gopal Das on dealing with people and relationships.
Gaur Gopal Das Videos: 9 Spiritual Teachings By Gaur Gopal Das On Dealing With Relationships And People
1. Making others feel important and valued doesn’t mean that we should lose our individuality or sense of worth. It just means that in loving relationships our apparent greatness should go in the background for sweetness to prevail. - Gaur Gopal Das
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2. In all our relationships, when we accept others for who they are, we are accepted for who we are.
It’s in giving that we get back.
All we need to ensure is that the process is reciprocal and that our accepting others/giving to others is not one-sided, where we’re the only one who keeps accepting/giving. - Gaur Gopal Das
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3. Most things that ruin our relationships are the small things which, if timely ignored, may actually never turn big.
There’s no point in blowing things out of proportion and falling into the trap of who’s right or who’s wrong. It would be worthwhile instead to focus on those aspects and principles that make our relationships stronger and deeper.
Having said that, when someone makes big mistakes in our relationships that we cannot easily ignore, we must deal with them appropriately. - Gaur Gopal Das
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4. In most cases, if not all, our dealings with others could be the cause for bringing out their good or bad side.
If we start respecting them and their space, valuing them and appreciating them, helping them grow, chances are high that they will slowly begin to do the same to us.
PS: Pls note that if we keep following this with others and they still do not change, they are chronically wired to be like that. One needs to deal with such cases appropriately, and one need not endlessly and unconditionally keep giving. - Gaur Gopal Das
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5. A lot of times, relationship advice can be perceived as very one-sided, which it is absolutely not.
We must be aware that at all times, good relationships happen when both individuals are committed to following the right principles.
After all, ताली एक हाथ से तो नहीं बजती है ना दोस्तों (we cannot clap with one hand, right?)
RED FLAG: You are the one to keep adjusting, and the other person doesn’t care to adapt or make sacrifices to add value to the relationship. Beware of such toxic relationships. If you cannot come out of it, do the needful but draw your boundaries and don’t let them occupy your inner space. - Gaur Gopal Das
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6. Relationships are not about winning arguments. They are about winning hearts even if, sometimes, it means losing the argument.
Please remember that if you are the one who has to lose and give in all the time and the other person takes undue advantage without their adjusting when needed, stop giving in.
Stand up for yourself, and don’t become someone’s punching bag or doormat.
Good relationships are not one-sided affairs, and both parties in any relationship need to follow these principles. - Gaur Gopal Das
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7. Good relationships don’t happen automatically.
We have to work on them, doing the small things rightly and consistently to make them happen, and this is true for all relationships.
And for lifelong partnerships in particular, compatibility in various aspects could make things a bit easier. - Gaur Gopal Das
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8. When people behave with us in a certain way, sometimes it’s because they are hardwired by their nature, but many times it’s because of the situations/circumstances they are in.
And often, if not always, we get all agitated and worked up with ‘WHAT’ they did to us without even trying to understand ‘WHY’ they did what they did.
If we allow our emotions to settle down before responding, if we hold ourselves back from reacting instantly and impulsively, we give ourselves a chance to figure out the ‘WHY’ behind the ‘WHAT’.
And then, with clarity and perspective about the reason behind a person’s behaviour, whether it be because of their nature or circumstance or any other reason, we are in a better position to deal with them and the situation appropriately. - Gaur Gopal Das
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9. A lot of damage in our relationships can be avoided just by practising silence when our heads are hot.
Not saying that we shouldn’t speak up or express ourselves. Just that hot heads give terrible feedback.
Better to wait until we are in control, not our anger.
Also, after our heads are cool, it’s not just about what we say but also about how we say it and how we separate personal feelings from the facts we present. - Gaur Gopal Das
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